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Title: Nettles, Damien Nov 2, 1996
Description: Isle of Wright ( England) 16 YO


Ell - October 26, 2006 10:43 PM (GMT)
Pic: http://www.iwcp.co.uk/getedimage.aspx?ImageID=596568
TEN-YEAR TORTURE OVER MISSING SONBy Suzanne Pert
MIND-boggling, gruesome and like a torture were how Valerie Nettles described the last ten years since her oldest son, Damien, vanished from the streets of Cowes after a night out.
As the days and weeks passed since his disappearance on November 2, 1996, initial optimism that he would soon walk through the door of the family home in Woodvale Road, Gurnard, turned to bafflement and a deep, raw despair.
Although ten years have passed and the pain is no longer so intense, Damien is never far from his mother's thoughts.
She has not had a proper night's sleep since he disappeared and it is in the small hours the most gruesome thoughts invade her mind — images too bleak to share even with her husband, Ed.
Speaking to the County Press from her new home in Flower Mound, Texas, Mrs Nettles said: "It gets a little easier with time because you learn to live with it. But, at the end of the day, where did he go? How can something like that happen and nothing be found?"
Asked if she thought Damien was still alive, there was a long pause before she answered.
"I am probably thinking more 'no' but I cannot say no completely because there is always that tiny glimmer of possibility that something else might have happened.
"What if he got in with the wrong sort of crowd and his mind has gone? Maybe he got amnesia but all those possibilities are more and more remote the longer it goes on."
One of the more widely held theories is he fell into the sea on his way home that night but, asks Mrs Nettles, why has no body been found?
In the past couple of months she has made an official complaint to the Independent Police Complaints Commission, which has been passed to the standards office of Hampshire Constabulary. Mrs Nettles' complaint concerns the initial handling of the case.
"The detectives were looking at us as a family, talking to us all in separate rooms, rather than searching for Damien.
"The police did not do anything until the media got involved, yet the first 24 hours after a disappearance is crucial," said Mrs Nettles, who has also complained police lost CCTV footage showing Damien in Yorkie's chip shop just before he disappeared.
Speaking about next Thursday's anniversary she said: "It is just mind-boggling that ten years have passed. To a lot of people it is old news and why drag it up again, but to us it is just like yesterday.
"It is just a torture we all live with."
It has affected in different ways her other three children and Ed. They all get on with their lives but it is always there.
"Ed has just been made redundant as the marketing manager for a local removal company, which is another glitch we could have done without.
"My son, James, who took it worst but is fine now, was married in September. Even though the wedding day was a celebration, there is always someone who is not there," said Mrs Nettles, 54.
Hampshire detectives are renewing their appeal for information.
Det Supt Dave Williams, who is in charge of Operation Ridgewood, said the case was undergoing an internal review to ensure that all possible lines of inquiry had been identified and pursued.
"This remains a missing person investigation, rather than a homicide inquiry," he said.
He said extensive police searches of the waterfront and foreshore in Cowes were carried out, all of Damien's close friends and associates had been interviewed and re-interviewed.
Extensive enquiries had also been made with a number of agencies and several British embassies abroad.
Although there had been responses to appeals on television and in newspapers, none had proved positive.
"We would encourage anyone, particularly those on the Island to come forward with any information they may have in respect of Damien's disappearance, no matter how insignificant it may seem," said Det Supt Williams.

Full report and timeline in the Friday, October 27, County Press.

http://www.iwcp.co.uk/ViewArticle2.aspx?Se...ticleID=1843669

monkalup - November 30, 2006 03:23 AM (GMT)
Damien Nettles
Age at disappearance: 16

Damien disappeared after a night out with friends on the Isle of Wight. He is 6ft 3ins tall, slim, with brown hair and an olive complexion.

Damien went missing after a night out with friends on the Isle of Wight when he was just 16. Damien, who was living with his family in Gurnard, went missing at around midnight on the 2 November 1996. He was last seen walking along the High Street in West Cowes and there is security camera footage of him in a fish and chip shop there.

He comes from a close family who miss him terribly. Sadly his family have had to move to USA for work since he disappeared but they are still hoping to hear news of Damien. His grandparents still live on the Isle of Wight. Damien was 21 last June 2001.

Damien is 6'3" tall of slim build. He has a brown hair, brown eyes and an fair complexion.
If you have seen any of these missing people, please call 0500 700 700 or email us
http://nmph.underwired.com/seen.php?page=16#

monkalup - November 30, 2006 03:24 AM (GMT)
http//www.damiennettles.com
Damien's Pictures

Web Information about Damien


Damien Nettles went missing November 2nd, 1996 on The Isle of Wight,
Hampshire, England. He had been out with friends and parted company
from them at approx 10.30pm. He was seen on Cowes High St by
various people. He was caught on security camera at Yorkie's Chip
Shop on Cowes High Street at approx 11:45pm. He was surrounded by
a group of 5/6 men. Only three of these men have been identified. Two
were army officers who were in Cowes for training in sailing. The other
a local drug dealer, who has since passed away, who was not identified
until after his death. This is odd, as the Isle of Wight is a very small
place and I am surprised that despite pictures and publicity of this video,
it took over six years for someone to identify this individual. The first
two men were identified after a documentary, which aired in January
1997, 2 months after Damien went missing. They were not local. The
National Missing Persons Charity was given an anonymous tip that
these two were from the Army, based in Aldershot. They were
interrogated and claim they did not know anything, however, both of
them held conversation with Damien, as seen on the video. Anyone with
any information related to Damien's disappearance, please contact us
mailto:edward_nettles@yahoo.com

monkalup - November 30, 2006 03:24 AM (GMT)
http://www.solenttv.com/pageviewer.aspx?pa...278996626176000

Sunday 24 September 2006 05:03 AM DAMIEN NETTLES
Thursday 12 August 2004
Family of missing Islander Damien Nettles continue search for information in Cowes.

Damien's cousin, Sophie Greenhalgh, is on the Island for Cowes Week, where she's distributing posters and t-shirts in a bid to raise awareness that Damien has still not yet been found. Damien was just sixteen when he went missing in 1996, after a night out with friends in Cowes. Despite media campaigns and the launch this year of a new website, his family - who now live in America - are no closer to finding out his whereabouts.

monkalup - November 30, 2006 03:25 AM (GMT)
http://www.solenttv.com/pageviewer.aspx?pa...344669548833750

Sunday 24 September 2006 05:05 AM DAMIEN NETTLES' MOTHER RETURNS
Wednesday 27 October 2004
Valerie Nettles is to return to the IW to spearhead a new campaign.


Valerie Nettles moved to the United States in 2001, from Cowes where Damien’s image was captured on CCTV for the last time after a night out in November 1996. Eight years on, Mrs Nettles will return to put up posters showing an age-enhanced image of what Damien might look like at 24 years old. Her visit is part of a campaign organised by the Missing Persons Helpline charity, to try to gain more information about what might have happened to Damien.

monkalup - November 30, 2006 03:25 AM (GMT)
age enhanced

monkalup - November 30, 2006 03:27 AM (GMT)

monkalup - December 1, 2006 01:38 AM (GMT)
http://news.scotsman.com/uk.cfm?id=1619292006

Vanished without trace: the children we must never be allowed to forget
TANYA THOMPSON
SOCIAL AFFAIRS CORRESPONDENT (tthompson@scotsman.com)
DONNA Davidson stares at the faded, black-and-white photograph of her three-year-old brother, Sandy. For 30 years she has been tormented by the image of the little boy, desperately trying to make sense of the events leading up to his disappearance.

She casts her mind back to the sunny afternoon on 23 April, 1976. Like most children on the Bourtreehill estate in Irvine, Donna and Sandy were keen to play outside. As their grandmother sat indoors, the toddler chased his afghan hound, Kissie, into the street. It was the last time anyone ever saw him.

Ms Davidson was only two years old when she followed her big brother out of the family garden in Ayrshire, but she lives with the guilt of being the last person to see him alive.

"I constantly rack my brains to see if there's something I can remember," says the 32-year-old mother of three, "but my memory turns blank."

When the dog returned alone, their grandmother raised the alarm. Police mounted a massive search, but found nothing.

"We were very close and as a wee child I took it really badly," says Ms Davidson.

"For a long time I believed he was coming back. But you realise you will never see him again."

Determined to help other families, Ms Davidson launched a nationwide campaign this week to track down the thousands of children who disappear in Britain each year.

Posters of missing youngsters will be displayed on 450 vans across the country as part of the initiative. The pictures also feature on the police-run website, MissingKids.co.uk

It is estimated that a child disappears every five minutes in the UK, equating to more than 100,000 a year. Some run away, others are forced out of their homes, while others are victims of abductions.

Although most are found, thousands are never located.

Speed is critical in locating missing children, according to campaign groups, and the rapid distribution of a child's photograph can make the difference between a fast recovery or a prolonged search.

Today, Ms Davidson still believes police reluctance to accept Sandy had been abducted led to delays in finding him.

"Time is of the essence, and you have to get the public involved quickly," she says.

"It's too late for Sandy, but if these posters can trigger the public to act, then it could help save a child's life."

Vicky Hamilton
VICKY Hamilton went missing on 10 February, 1991, during a snowstorm, following a visit to her sister Sharon's home in Livingston, West Lothian. The 15-year-old was last seen waiting for a bus in Bathgate to take her back to the family home near Falkirk.

Despite a massive police investigation and nationwide appeal, her body was never found, and detectives believe she was abducted and murdered.

Eleven days after her disappearance, Vicky's purse was found in St Andrew Square, Edinburgh, which was the main bus terminus.

Last year, her family were given fresh hope after police told them that her recovered purse could be tested for DNA.

Relatives hope forensic analysis could provide clues to who she was with on the day she vanished.

Sandy Davidson
ON 23 April, 1976, three-year-old Sandy Davidson and his sister were being looked after by their grandmother on the newly built Bourtreehill estate in Irvine, Ayrshire.

The toddler ran out into the street after the family's pet dog and was never seen again.

Sandy's sister, Donna, was only two when she followed her big brother out of the family garden. When Sandy's dog returned alone, his grandmother raised the alarm.

The family believe police reluctance to accept the little boy had been abducted hampered the inquiry.

Questioned at length by police and close relatives, Donna Davidson's memories of the day's events are vague, but she believes her brother was abducted.

The case has baffled police for three decades, and his family have no idea whether he is alive or dead.

Andrew MacRae and mum Renee
RENEE MacRae and her son, Andrew, were last seen on the afternoon of 12 November, 1976, driving south out of Inverness.

Later that evening, the car was found burnt out in a lay-by on the A9.

Almost every officer in the Highlands took part in a search which continued off and on for a full year, but the pair have never been found.

Mrs MacRae, 36, said she was going to see her sister, who then lived in Kilmarnock.

However, she had arranged to see her lover, Bill McDowell, Andrew's father, although the rendezvous never took place.

Mr McDowell has always denied any involvement in the disappearance of the pair. Police recently said they believed they were closer to solving the mystery.

Damien Nettles
DAMIEN Nettles vanished at about midnight on a stormy night in November 1996, from Gurnard, in the Cowes area of the Isle of Wight. He was last seen in a chip shop but was identified later, alone, on CCTV in the town.

Despite a major police investigation his whereabouts remain unknown. Aged 16 at the time of his disappearance, he was tall and slim for his age. Damien had a great sense of humour and was an accomplished musician, playing guitar and trombone with hopes of starting a band. Known to his friends as "Damo", he also enjoyed bodybuilding, computer games and fishing. In 1996, he was well over 6ft tall and still growing. He had short hair but favoured a longer style, had a small scar under his chin and may now have a "goatee" beard. Police said he had a good relationship with his family and friends.

Sasha McLeish
SASHA McLeish left her home at 8am on her way to school on 23 June this year. The 15-year-old, from Luton, told her family not to worry if she was late home because she was going to a dance club after school. The alarm was raised when she failed to turn up for class and did not attend the youth club later that day.

Bedfordshire Police said it was possible that the young girl had travelled to Harlesden, in north-west London, where it is thought she had a teenage boyfriend. Detective Constable Zara Carr, who is investigating her disappearance, said she was hoping a member of the public would come forward with information.

"Sasha's family are understandably worried sick, and we would appeal to anyone who has seen or heard from Sasha to get in touch."

Moira Anderson
MOIRA Anderson was last seen boarding the Cliftonhill bus in her home town, Coatbridge, at about 5pm on 23 February, 1957.

What began as a routine journey became one of Scotland's most enduring mysteries.

She had run dozens of errands for her grandmother, and this time it was her uncle Jim who had sent her off to the Co-op to buy a box of Black Magic chocolates for her mother's birthday. Dressed in her trademark pixie hat, long woollen socks and gabardine coat, the 11-year-old made the familiar trip to the shop in nearby Laird Street, just a short distance from her grandmother's home in Muiryhall Street. Clutching a few shillings, she hurried down the road. She was never seen again. Although still described by police as a missing person's inquiry, friends and relatives are certain she was abducted and murdered.

Mohammed Jahid Ul-Haque
FIFTEEN-year-old Mohammed Jahid Ul-Haque went missing from his home in Edinburgh on Sunday, 6 August this year.

Lothian and Borders Police believe the teenager may be sleeping rough on the streets of Essex, and there have been unconfirmed sightings of him in the Saffron Walden area, 50 miles from London.

Mohammed is of Asian appearance, about 5ft 2in in height, medium build with short dark hair.

A police spokesman said: "He is a young lad and we do not know if he has found accommodation. We are worried he may be living rough. We would appeal to anyone who may have seen him to contact police."

Detectives believe he may have tried to find a job in the catering trade.

Kenneth Jones
KENNETH Jones was 17 when he vanished from Glenrothes, Fife, in November 1998. He had been learning to play the cornet, just like his father, and the pair had gone to brass band practice together. Allan Jones's last evening with his son had been perfectly ordinary. But, within hours of returning home, Kenneth sneaked out, taking a sports bag and some clothes. He has not been seen since.

When his father got up for work at 8am the next morning, he thought his son was still in bed. Later, his parents presumed he had gone out with friends.

But when their only child failed to return at teatime, they began to worry, and within 24 hours of his disappearance, police were called in.

They carried out a two-day search of woodland near the family's home, but found no trace of Kenneth.

Derek Burns
DEREK Burns disappeared in March 1989. His mother, Diane, and her husband, also Derek, have not seen their son since he was a long-haired 19-year-old growing up in West Calder, West Lothian.

Three years ago, the teenager's case was featured in a special report on Scotland's missing children, and the National Missing Persons Helpline produced an artist's impression of how Derek may look as an adult. For his mother, the drawing is unnerving. The features are familiar, but the face is not instantly recognisable. It looks like someone she knew a long time ago, and yet the face in the sketch is that of her son, shown as he probably looks today, a man in his early 30s.

Derek's parents hope that a member of the public will recognise their son and come forward with clues to his whereabouts.

Ell - February 29, 2008 01:41 AM (GMT)
Is Damien alive?
By Peter Law

SEEKING ANSWERS: Damien Nettles, aged 16 (top) and a computer-generated image of how he might look aged 27.
THE family of a teenager who has been missing for more than 11 years are in shock today after astonishing claims that their son could still be alive.

Damien Nettles - who would now 27 - disappeared from Cowes on the Isle of Wight on November 2, 1996, when he was 16.

Now a private investigator has uncovered evidence that a Damien Nettles could have surfaced in Torquay, Devon.

Hampshire detectives are investigating the sensational claims and would not rule out the possibility that Damien may still be alive.

It was also revealed the Major Crime Department was investigating "persons" using the name Damien Nettles in Britain.

Last night, Damien's mother Valerie told the Daily Echo she remained hopeful her son was alive.
http://www.dailyecho.co.uk/news/latest/dis...amien_alive.php

monkalup - March 12, 2008 02:08 AM (GMT)
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/7290361.stm

Families of missing call for help

Luke Durbin was last seen on CCTV after a night with friends
People with missing relatives are planning a march through London to demand more help from the government.
The mothers of two teenagers who vanished without trace are organising the event to highlight the scale of the problem and its effect on families.

The campaigners are calling on the government to provide funding for a group to provide practical and emotional support.

The Missing People charity estimates 210,000 are reported missing each year.

'Lack of support'

During the March for the Missing, the names of the vanished people will be read out, and a single daffodil thrown to the ground to represent them.

A petition will also be handed into Downing Street.

it is an abnormal, hideous situation

Nicki Durbin

The families are urging MPs to back a Missing Person's Bill to support their aims.

The event has been organised by Valerie Nettles, whose son Damien, 16, disappeared from the Isle of Wight in 1996; and Nicki Durbin, whose 19-year-old son Luke vanished from Ipswich in 2006.

The families say while the Missing People charity is "fantastic", it primarily works to find and reunite people. They say there is a need for emotional and practical support for families still searching for lost relatives.

'Limbo'

Luke Durbin was last seen on CCTV in Ipswich town centre after leaving a nightclub.

His mother managed to find some support by contacting other women with missing children.

She said: "I felt like I was not dealing with it normally, it is an abnormal, hideous situation.

"You realise you are living parallel lives. You go to work, stay very focused on your job, that life where you behave normally. Then you have this dark world where you just don't know what you are going to do."

Ms Durbin said families of missing people are left in limbo.

"If Luke had died we would have gone through the process of grieving and mourning. But we are stuck and wouldn't think of doing it while we thought there was hope."


Steven Cook went missing on the first night of a holiday

The group is also calling for practical support for appeal websites, and to make sure families get as much publicity as possible.

The family of Steven Cook, 20, who went missing on the first night of a holiday with friends in Malia, Crete, faced additional practical problems.

They spent thousands of pounds - much of it raised by their local community - flying to Crete to search for their son.

Steven's father, Norman Cook, said: "If it were people in a lesser financial situation, I think they would really struggle."

He added: "There is a real apathy towards the missing by the authorities, who need to give more support."

Dianne - April 29, 2008 05:23 AM (GMT)
http://wherearethey.bravepages.com/cases/ukm002.html

Damien Richard Nettles

Missing since November 2nd, 1996 from Gurnard, Isle of Wight, UK

Personal information
Birthdate: 21-jun-1980
Age at disappearance: 16
Hair: brown, short but favoured a longer style.
Eyes: brown
Height: 6'3" / 190 cm Weight: 180 lbs - 82 kg

Extra information: may now have a "goatee" style beard. He had a small scar under his chin. He was slim and tall for his age with long arms and legs. Fair complexion. His nickname is "Damo".

WAT case #: ukM002 Photos


Circumstances of disappearance

Damien went missing at about midnight on a wet and stormy night from the Cowes area of the Isle of Wight. He was last seen in person in a fish and chip shop but was identified later alone, on CCTV walking along High Street in West Cowes. He has not been seen since. Despite a major police investigation, covering numerous possible outcomes, the whereabouts of Damien remains unknown. Damien has a great sense of humour and is an accomplished musician, playing guitar and trombone with hopes of starting a band. He also enjoys computer games, sea fishing and sometimes uses weights or body building equipment. He had a good relationship with his family and friends. His family has since moved to the US for work, but his grandparents still live in the Isle of Wight.

Skeletal human remains were found in Warsash beach, Southampton on February 15 and February 23, 2003. An examination of the bones suggested the body was that of a young male, and that the bones had been in their skeletal form for less than four years. There is a possibility that these bones belong to Damien or to another missing teenager, Daniel Nolan. DNA samples were extracted from the bones on February 2003.

If you have ANY information on this person's whereabouts, no matter how trivial, please contact:

HampshireConstabulary
Isle of Wight Police - DS Pilbeam
01983 528000

or

National Missing Persons Helpline
0500 700 700
sightings@missingpersons.org

The information you provide could be vital in solving this case. You may remain anonymous when submitting information to most agencies.


monkalup - November 27, 2008 12:55 AM (GMT)
http://www.hastingsobserver.co.uk/latest-s...-boy.4650198.jp

Fresh appeal over missing boy



« Previous « PreviousNext » Next »View GalleryPublished Date: 01 November 2008
Police have issued a renewed appeal for information ahead of the 12th anniversary of the day that a 16-year-old boy went missing on the Isle of Wight.
Damien Nettles, 16, went missing on Saturday, November 2, 1996, after a night out with friends.

The last confirmed sighting of Damien was on CCTV at Yorkie's fish and chip shop in West Cowes High Street at approximately 11.35pm the night he disappADVERTISEMENTeared.

A police spokesman said that although the CCTV footage from Yorkie's fish and chip shop had been circulated widely over the past 12 years, some of the men seen in the shop at the same time as Damien had still not been identified.

At the time of his disappearance, Damien was described as white, 6ft 3in, of slim build, with short brown hair, shaved at the back and brown eyes.

Damien, of Woodvale Road, Gurnard, was last seen wearing a black fleece jacket, dark blue jeans and black boots. There are reported sightings of someone matching Damien's description in the area of the Co-Op supermarket and bus stop in Terminus Road, West Cowes, after 11.35pm on the night he disappeared.

Acting Detective Chief Inspector Darren O'Callaghan, of Hampshire Constabulary's major crime department, said: "We are using the anniversary to continue to appeal for information, and officers will look at any significant new evidence that results from this publicity.

"I'm asking everyone who was in Cowes on November 2, 1996, to dig deep into their memories for any small piece of information or detail that may provide a vital clue to Damien's movements on the night he was last seen.

"People have come forward years after Damien's disappearance was first publicised, suggesting there is still the possibility that members of the community may know something that could take the investigation forward."

Anyone with information should contact Hampshire Constabulary on 0845 045 45 45, Missing People (formerly the National Missing Persons Helpline) in confidence on Freefone 0500 700 700 or the anonymous Crimestoppers charity line on 0800 555 111.



Copyright © Press Association Ltd. 2008, All Rights Reserved.


monkalup - November 27, 2008 12:58 AM (GMT)

monkalup - November 27, 2008 01:02 AM (GMT)
Monday, 1 July, 2002, 10:34 GMT 11:34 UK
Searching for missing children


Dan Nolan went missing on New Year's Day

As the National Missing Persons Helpline reaches its 10th anniversary, BBC News Online's Duncan Walker speaks to two families who have come to rely on its support.
The parents of teenagers Dan Nolan and Damien Nettles believe their sons were abducted and that the cases could even be linked.

When 14-year-old Dan Nolan vanished on a late-night fishing trip on New Year's Day, police told his family that he had probably drowned.


Damien's parents want to know what happened to him

He has now been missing for six months, and his mother, Pauline, is increasingly convinced that the explanation is too simple.

She said her son is a good swimmer and was well aware of the dangers of Hampshire's River Hamble, where he had been with three friends.

"I personally think there was an unsavoury character around that night that somehow took Dan," Mrs Nolan said.

'No bodies'

Three miles away, on the Isle of Wight, the family of 16-year-old Damien Nettles had also struggled to convince police that their son was abducted.



I can only think that someone has done something to my son

Valerie Nettles
Damien was last seen in a chip shop in Cowes on 2 November 1996.

His mother, Valerie, thinks he was taken by one or more of a group of six men caught on the restaurant's security camera.

Mrs Nettles said only two of the men have ever been identified and that someone in the group could have lured Damien onto a boat.

With the more recent case of Dan Nolan in mind, she said: "It's interesting that both our sons went missing in the same area within a few years and there's no sign of a body.

"You would have thought the at least one of them would have turned up."

'Live in hope'

While Mrs Nettles has started to accept that her son is unlikely to be found alive, Mrs Nolan remains hopeful.


Dan's parents believe he will be home one day

Extensive searches of the River Hamble have been carried out and the fact that no trace of Dan has ever been found have encouraged her to campaign for information.

She said: "Dan is in my mind 24/7 and I'm aware there could be a negative outcome, but we live in hope that he will be found."

Mrs Nolan has promised Dan's three younger brothers and sister that she and her husband Greg will do everything they can to find him.

"We talk about what we will do when he comes home and we enjoy talking about him," Mrs Nettles said.

"But I cry, my husband cries, my children cry."

Struggled

Since Damien's disappearance his family have had to move to the US, where he originally came from.



When Dan went missing it was a whirlwind, they never hesitated to help in any way they can.

Pauline Nolan
But Mrs Nettles said her struggle to find out what happened to her son will never end.

She said: "I can only think that someone has done something to my son. I have never thought he ran away," she said.

Both the Nolan and Nettles families have struggled to get the levels of publicity that the case of Amanda Dowler has attracted.

Amanda, known as Milly, went missing in March in Surrey on her way home from school.

Her disappearance, and the police's inquiry into it, has attracted much national media interest, although the 14-year-old has still not been found.

While the Nolans and Nettles are envious - but certainly not begrudging - of the interest in Milly, the families said the National Missing Persons Helpline has been a vital ally.

'Whirlwind'

"Without them I don't think Damien would even have been an issue - no one would even know he was missing," Mrs Nettles said.

"When a girl goes missing there's a lot of media interest - and that's great - but when a boy goes missing it's much less interesting."

Mrs Nolan went further, calling on police to pass details of all missing people to the charity.

"They have been absolutely brilliant, " she said.

"When Dan went missing it was a whirlwind, they never hesitated to help in any way they could."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/2069533.stm

monkalup - November 27, 2008 01:03 AM (GMT)
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england...ire/4039313.stm

Missing boy's mother sparks clue
By Thelma Etim
BBC News, Hampshire



Damien Nettles in 1996 (left) and how he may look today
The mother of a boy who went missing eight years ago says she has helped generate fresh leads by making public appeals during a visit from the US.
Damien Nettles was 16 when he disappeared after a night out with friends in Cowes on the Isle of Wight on 2 November 1996.

Valerie Nettles, who now lives in Texas, flew in to the UK on Sunday to meet with Hampshire Police detectives.

She said a "sighting of a boy that may have been Damien" has come to light.

I still believe he is alive, there is not a day that goes by where I do not think about my Damien

Valerie Nettles


Mrs Nettles said: "A young man was seen carrying a plastic bag walking along Baring Road outside Solent Middle School around 12.30am (on the night he went missing).

"This was after he was captured on CCTV footage at Yorkies fish and chip shop at 11.45pm that night. "


After leaving the chip shop, Damien was last seen at 12.20am walking alone along the High Street in Cowes.

She added: "I still believe he is alive. There is not a day that goes by where I do not think about my Damien.

"I am trying to remain positive but it is exhausting.

"At this point I and my family need closure, I urge anybody out their to come forward if they have any information about him."

Mrs Nettles moved to Texas with her remaining children in 2001, when her husband was offered a new job in Dallas after being made redundant from his previous position in the UK.

'Staying strong'


She added: " We cope because we have to - we have no choice.


"I have to keep going for my other children. I also have to stay strong for Damien so I can keep looking for him."


She had a meeting with Det Supt Dave Williams, of Hampshire's Major Crime Unit, who is leading the inquiry, on Tuesday.


"New information has been gathered since I have been back in the UK, and as result of my appeals there have been calls to the police and the National Missing Persons helpline," explained Mrs Nettles.



monkalup - November 27, 2008 01:03 AM (GMT)
Looking for my missing son
Tue Oct 24 12:20:11 UTC 2006 Looking for my missing son
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Damien Nettles was last seen in November 1996Last week the Magazine published an article on finding people who have gone missing. Valerie Nettles describes the nightmare when her son disappeared almost 10 years ago in our readers column. Damien Nettles was last seen in November 1996Last week the Magazine published an article on finding people who have gone missing. Valerie Nettles describes the nightmare when her son disappeared almost 10 years ago in our readers column.
On 3 November 1996 we awoke much like any other Sunday. Damien, who was 16, was not in his room. He'd been for a night put in Cowes in the Isle of Wight so I was not overly concerned as I was sure he had probably stayed at a friend's house, which he had done before. He usually called me to let me know, but if it was late, he would call in the morning. It was OK. On 3 November 1996 we awoke much like any other Sunday. Damien, who was 16, was not in his room. He'd been for a night out in Cowes in the Isle of Wight so I was not overly concerned as I was sure he had probably stayed at a friend's house, which he had done before. He usually called me to let me know, but if it was late, he would call in the morning. It was OK.
When by late morning I had heard nothing, I decided to call the friend he had been with the night before, who told me he left Damien at 10.30pm and thought that he had gone home. When by late morning I had heard nothing, I decided to call the friend he had been with the night before, who told me he left Damien at 10.30pm and thought that he had gone home.
I began to feel very worried, it did not make any sense. I called everyone I could think of, but nobody had seen him. I got in my car and drove all over the place, expecting to see him walking towards home. But nothing. I began to feel very worried, it did not make any sense. I called everyone I could think of, but nobody had seen him. I got in my car and drove all over the place, expecting to see him walking towards home. But nothing.
Something was just not right. I felt very scared and bewildered as to what to do next. I felt that I was spinning and panic set in. I could not breathe. I felt something was very wrong and did not know where to go. We drove around and around, and still nothing. Something was just not right. I felt very scared and bewildered as to what to do next. I felt that I was spinning and panic set in. I could not breathe. I felt something was very wrong and did not know where to go. We drove around and around, and still nothing.
Finally, we called the police. I was told that I should go to the local police station to file a report. Finally, we called the police. I was told that I should go to the local police station to file a report.
Seafront search Seafront search
I was in a state of shock and confusion and panic and extremely upset when I got to the police station. It took a long time for them to open the door. My daughter was with me, she was scared too and wanted to be with me. I explained to the officer what the situation was but they did not seem to be very interested. I was in a state of shock and confusion and panic and extremely upset when I got to the police station. It took a long time for them to open the door. My daughter was with me, she was scared too and wanted to be with me. I explained to the officer what the situation was but they did not seem to be very interested.
Damien as a child Damien as a child
They told me he was probably working out his problems and gone off for a while to sort himself out - lots of teens did this and to go home and he would show up. They told me he was probably working out his problems and gone off for a while to sort himself out - lots of teens did this and to go home and he would show up.
I could not quite believe what I was hearing. My whole thoughts were focused on Damien out there somewhere, hurt and waiting for help. I never for one moment thought that he had gone off or run away as nothing was wrong at home and school was fine, as far as we knew. I could not quite believe what I was hearing. My whole thoughts were focused on Damien out there somewhere, hurt and waiting for help. I never for one moment thought that he had gone off or run away as nothing was wrong at home and school was fine, as far as we knew.
So why would he wander off? It was out of character. I expected the police to jump on this and go out and look for Damien. I was left feeling a little confused as to what to do next. If the police were not concerned then who could help me? I felt foolish and very alone. So why would he wander off? It was out of character. I expected the police to jump on this and go out and look for Damien. I was left feeling a little confused as to what to do next. If the police were not concerned then who could help me? I felt foolish and very alone.
I went home. I could not leave the house. My whole existence was waiting for that familiar figure to come around the corner. The bus stop was just outside our house and every bus that stopped, I waited for Damien to step of that bus. I waited and waited. I went home. I could not leave the house. My whole existence was waiting for that familiar figure to come around the corner. The bus stop was just outside our house and every bus that stopped, I waited for Damien to step of that bus. I waited and waited.
The first night, after the police said that there was nothing that they could do, my husband, father and son went with flashlights and searched the seafront and the short cuts through the forest and park. The first night, after the police said that there was nothing that they could do, my husband, father and son went with flashlights and searched the seafront and the short cuts through the forest and park.
What can I say... a man in his seventies, a 13-year-old boy and my husband, out there in the dark, wind and rain shouting Damien's name and scrambling through undergrowth hoping against hope to hear his voice. What can I say... a man in his seventies, a 13-year-old boy and my husband, out there in the dark, wind and rain shouting Damien's name and scrambling through undergrowth hoping against hope to hear his voice.
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I could not believe the swirling turmoil that surrounded our family. People came and went, formed search parties, made posters and blanketed the town with them, sat with me day and night. The support that I had was amazing. It helped to know that so many people cared about Damien. I could not believe the swirling turmoil that surrounded our family. People came and went, formed search parties, made posters and blanketed the town with them, sat with me day and night. The support that I had was amazing. It helped to know that so many people cared about Damien.
Damien "charging through the bushes" Damien "charging through the bushes"
The mother of one of Damien's friends suggested I go around to all the local pubs and ask if someone remembered seeing him. I followed her advice and sure enough, slowly but surely, I started to get some information from people who had seen him that night. The mother of one of Damien's friends suggested I go around to all the local pubs and ask if someone remembered seeing him. I followed her advice and sure enough, slowly but surely, I started to get some information from people who had seen him that night.
I passed everything I found to the police but at that point they were much more interested in looking at us. We did not realise this at the time, we were in shock, but they were looking at the family. When the detectives became involved, we had three of them descend on us. I passed everything I found to the police but at that point they were much more interested in looking at us. We did not realise this at the time, we were in shock, but they were looking at the family. When the detectives became involved, we had three of them descend on us.
They took each of us in turn into another room and questioned us, one of them stayed at the door and watched each and every one of us. I remember thinking at the time, why are they wasting time doing this, why are they not looking for Damien? I guess that had to be done, but I just wanted action. They took each of us in turn into another room and questioned us, one of them stayed at the door and watched each and every one of us. I remember thinking at the time, why are they wasting time doing this, why are they not looking for Damien? I guess that had to be done, but I just wanted action.
It was dreadful. In the next weeks suddenly a police car would arrive. It was awful. Every time I would panic, could not breath, my body would start to shake. Seeing a policeman coming down the drive, I was petrified of what they were going to tell me. It was dreadful. In the next weeks suddenly a police car would arrive. It was awful. Every time I would panic, could not breath, my body would start to shake. Seeing a policeman coming down the drive, I was petrified of what they were going to tell me.
They brought plastic bags with bits of clothing for me to identify that they had found in the sea. Thankfully, nothing they brought belonged to Damien. They brought plastic bags with bits of clothing for me to identify that they had found in the sea. Thankfully, nothing they brought belonged to Damien.
CCTV footage CCTV footage
My friends went to every place that they could think of. They found out Damien's movements the night he went missing, they found the CCTV and the local chip shop video that showed him around 11.45pm. My friends went to every place that they could think of. They found out Damien's movements the night he went missing, they found the CCTV and the local chip shop video that showed him around 11.45pm.
Damien liked to go fishing Damien liked to go fishing
The CCTV showed him wandering up and down the road, nothing seemed to be troubling him. He was on his own. The video from the local chip shop showed him coming in and standing with a group of men, who were not local. He waved to one of them. Two of those men were found but the rest have never been identified, despite the distinctive clothing one of them had on. The CCTV showed him wandering up and down the road, nothing seemed to be troubling him. He was on his own. The video from the local chip shop showed him coming in and standing with a group of men, who were not local. He waved to one of them. Two of those men were found but the rest have never been identified, despite the distinctive clothing one of them had on.
Days became weeks and still nothing. Friends came and went. Every time I heard the bus, I willed Damien to get off, but he did not. Every time the phone rang I hoped it would be him. Days became weeks and still nothing. Friends came and went. Every time I heard the bus, I willed Damien to get off, but he did not. Every time the phone rang I hoped it would be him.
Eventually, slowly people stopped dropping by, lives went back to normal for others. Ours never did. Eventually, slowly people stopped dropping by, lives went back to normal for others. Ours never did.
It is 10 years this coming November. We have been living this life of wondering what could have happened to Damien. Every bad thing that could happen has played out in my mind. Not knowing is the hardest thing. We need closure. It is 10 years this coming November. We have been living this life of wondering what could have happened to Damien. Every bad thing that could happen has played out in my mind. Not knowing is the hardest thing. We need closure.
I am convinced that someone out there has the information that we need. Even the police don't seem to be looking for anything anymore. It is like living a dual life, one foot in darkness and the other in daily life. It is in the wee hours of the morning it comes back to me, and I replay it in my mind and wonder what happened to him that night.
I am convinced that someone out there has the information that we need. Even the police don't seem to be looking for anything anymore. It is like living a dual life, one foot in darkness and the other in daily life. It is in the wee hours of the morning it comes back to me, and I replay it in my mind and wonder what happened to him that night.

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monkalup - November 27, 2008 01:03 AM (GMT)
http://www.truecrimeblog.co.uk/2007/11/11-...en-nettles.html

02-Nov-2007
11 Years On: Damien Nettles

Today marks an anniversary in another long-running missing persons case. It's been 11 years since 16-year-old Damien Nettles (pictured) vanished without a trace from Cowes on the Isle of Wight.

Damien, who's also known as "Damo", went out with a friend on the evening of Saturday 2nd November 1996. His friend left for home around 10:30pm, and Damien was caught on CCTV at around 11:35pm in Yorkies fish and chip shop on West Cowes High Street. The video below shows Damien in the shop; he's the one who's almost centre of frame and standing in profile most of the time. The timestamp is an hour fast on the footage, which forms one of the last confirmed sightings of Damien before he disappeared.





Damien enjoyed computer games and fishing and, despite a mischievous sense of humour, he was developing into a deep thinker, often discussing psychology with his older sister. He was also an accomplished musician, playing the guitar and the trombone, and he enjoyed a good relationship with his family, who never believed he would have run away from home. Watching the video, it's not difficult to imagine you're witnessing an innocent, happy-go-lucky teenager moments before he was overwhelmed by something unexpected and awful.

Some of the men shown standing near Damien in the chip shop, and/or talking to him, still haven't been identified. Hampshire Constabulary is keen to hear from anyone who may be able to help identify them. Detective Inspector Darren O'Callaghan, overseeing the investigation into Damien's disappearance (codenamed Operation Ridgewood), said:
"Although the CCTV footage has been widely circulated in previous years, we still have not been able to identify all those who were in Yorkies fish and chip shop at the same time as Damien."
Damien's family, who were living in the village of Gurnard on the Isle of Wight when he went missing, have since moved stateside to Texas. They have never given up hope of finding out what happened to Damien, and have said they need "closure" after all these years. Damien's mother, Valerie Nettles, said in 2003:
"All it takes is one piece of credible information, which could end this nightmare we live in. We are begging anyone who may be able to help to come forward, anonymously if necessary. Just give us something to go on.

The agony of not knowing is torture, and images of the most despicable kind drift into our thoughts and plague our sleep. We need Damien back, or at least to know and face the reality of what has happened so we can move on from this place."
The family's website can be found at damiennettles.com.
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monkalup - November 27, 2008 01:04 AM (GMT)
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Damien as a teenager (Top) and how he might look today, aged 27
IMAGES of missing teenager Damien Nettles will be featured on television screens in waiting rooms of hospitals and GP surgeries across the country in a desperate bid to solve the baffling case.

On the 11th anniversary of his disappearance, it's hoped that a million people a month will see Damien's face on Missing Kid's TV.

The appeal - which will also feature an age progression picture of Damien might look like now aged 27 - will be screened at 129 GP surgeries and major hospitals including Milton Keynes, Swindon and Whipps Cross in East London.

The initiative comes a day after the Daily Echo revealed that police had reopened their investigation and pledged to reinterview a "number of people" who were known to be in the area on the night of his disappearance.

Damien vanished on November 2, 1996, after going to a party with friends in East Cowes. After separating from friends he was seen on a security camera inside Yorkie's Chip Shop at 11.36pm and it was here that he encountered a group of five men - only two of whom have ever been identified.

Det Insp Darren O'Callaghan, who is overseeing Operation Ridgewood, said it was critical the remaining three men were identified.

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"Although the CCTV footage has been widely circulated in previous years, we still have not been able to identify all those who were in Yorkie's Chip Shop at the same time as Damien," he said.

To watch the chip shop CCTV click on the video link.

Damien is second from left and has his back turned to the camera at one point. Police have identified the two men furthest right and want to identify the other three. If you known who these men are please contact Hampshire Constabulary on 0845 045 45 45.

Det Insp O'Callaghan said his task was to piece together the "critical hours" after the last known sighting of Damien walking along the High Street at 12.02am.

Speaking from their family home in Texas, United States, Damien's mother Valerie said she believed the answer still lies on the Island.

"I think somebody on the Isle of Wight was involved in why Damien went missing and how he went missing," she said, "I think he ran into someone and something happened to him. Either he was taken away or he was disposed of, I'm more inclined to think he was disposed of.

"If we find his body or if we find his remains it's going to open up a whole new kettle of fish, but at least I will know where he is."

At the time he disappeared Damien was about 6ft 3ins, slim and possibly still growing. He had had a short haircut, but was known to favour longer hair. He had talked about growing a beard, probably favouring a goatee style and he had a small scar under his chin.

Details of Damien's case will also be featured on a new section of the Hampshire Constabulary website and can be found at www.hampshire.police.uk/Internet/news/casebook.

If you have any information that could shed light on what happened to Damien call Missing People on 0500 700 700 or Hampshire Constabulary on 0845 045 45 45.

monkalup - November 27, 2008 01:05 AM (GMT)
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The family has offered a reward of £25,000 for information on Lee, but no one has come forward. 'We had beermats made, milk cartons, pop videos. The Body Shop printed his picture on the side of their delivery vehicles. It's been endless.'

Upstairs, Lee's bedroom is the same as the day he left, 19 years ago. The calendar is set on the same day. His vinyl records, books, clothes, even his school uniform remain. Lee would now be 34. 'People say, why don't you clear it all away?' Chris says. 'I can't. Even his Old Spice aftershave is there! Not many kids use that these days. I have to hope that one day he will come back to us. For many years I wouldn't even go on holiday.

'I have been to see clairvoyants. I wanted someone to tell me that he's alive. I know it's all rubbish, but it helped me at the time. I know that with other kids who have gone missing, after a while their families agree to pronounce them dead. But I can't do that. When I know for certain, that's different.'

advertisementDamien Nettles disappeared after a night out with friends in Cowes on the Isle of Wight on November 2, 1996, aged 15. His family now live in America - Damien's father is American - though his mother Valerie still returns regularly to the Isle of Wight to appeal for information. She is critical of the initial police handling of the case, pointing out that no significant search was organised until 14 months after he disappeared, but now, confident that there are people who know what happened to her son, she concentrates on keeping his memory alive and in the public domain.

'We are far from giving up on this,' Valerie says. 'My daughter Melissa [20], made a MySpace page for Damien about six months ago and had all of her contacts add his details, and so it snowballs. Yesterday, my other daughter, Sarah [30], made a Facebook page for him and we have already had more than 60 people sign up. I don't think we have come to terms with Damien's disappearance, though we have learnt to live with it. It has had a terrible effect on each of us. We cope by never giving up.'

Sarah, now living in Seattle, shares her mother's anguish. 'It's been 11 guilt-ridden years. It has broken my heart. The week before Damien disappeared, while he was on his half-term break, he visited me at university in Portsmouth and I had called Mum to tell him to come home. I was a poor student and I just couldn't afford to look after him, to pay for his food and so on. Afterwards I felt that if I had let him stay longer with me in Portsmouth, everything would have been OK. Recently I have been getting more active, using these new kinds of community pages on the internet to spread the word. It might not seem much, but it gets people thinking.

'Initially, Damien's disappearance made us feel very distant as a family. There was a lot of resentment. We eventually realised we had to be as close as possible. If we hadn't all moved together to America, it would have split us apart.'

In her heart of hearts, Sarah no longer truly believes that Damien is still alive. 'Something happened that night. I don't know what it was and I won't even speculate. You go through denial. At the beginning, our living-room looked over the front drive and every day I had a weird feeling of expecting to see him. I was so certain. But it never happened. For the first five or six years, I thought he might be somewhere. Now I look at it logically. He would never have run away, so I can't see any reason for him to be out there.'

Instead, Sarah wants to make sure that people do not forget her brother. 'Damien was a real person, not just that boy who went missing 11 years ago. Something happened and someone has to know something.'

The amount of media coverage devoted to the McCanns suggests there has been a change in the way the public perceive missing children. Despite Paul Tuohy's frustration at the lack of recognition given to the subject, he heads a vibrant organisation that now employs 50 people and runs a 24-hour helpline. Missing People has built strong links with the National Missing Persons Bureau - a relationship that has its genesis in the Fred West investigation when Gloucestershire police realised that what was then the Missing Persons Helpline had better records of disappearances than it did.

'Dealing with missing children costs the police in the region of £200 million a year in terms of manpower,' Tuohy says. 'We can save them millions in the long run. We now have protocols with all 43 police services in Britain and that is a very fruitful relationship. We can coordinate our work and we have been able to benefit from things like the introduction of age-progression photography that allows us to show how someone may look 10 or 20 years after they disappeared.'

Natasha Lee and her family believe that the investigation into what happened to Katrice fell victim, in part, to 'politics'. The military police was effectively in charge, but had to negotiate with the German police because the Naafi building was in a German town. And the Army was not too keen to make much, in public, of the event. It was six weeks before an item appeared in the newspaper. 'There's still a lot of anger in our family,' Natasha says. 'No one has a good word to say about the military police and the German authorities. The Germans were convinced she had drowned in a nearby river and refused to believe anything else.

'A couple of months after she disappeared, Mum and Dad stopped receiving child support. When they did eventually appear on the forces TV network, there was an officer in the background telling them what they could and could not say.'

The investigation did not get very far and despite dragging the local river and conducting house-to-house inquiries, no trace of Katrice was ever found. Ironically, it was only when Crimewatch mounted a reconstruction of Katrice's disappearance, on what would have been her 21st birthday in November 2000, that some idea of the weakness of the investigation was revealed.

'People came forward who had never been interviewed,' Natasha recalls. 'There was a young man who had been standing behind them at the checkout, and even one of the checkout ladies.' One woman also came forward to say that her boyfriend at the time, who was in the same regiment, had confessed to murdering the child. He lived up in Northumbria and the military police went to interview him. He denied it and the woman who gave the details died soon after, so nothing ever came of it. The military police told us they thought he was probably a fantasist.'

None of the families I spoke to was entirely happy with the police's response. 'I have spent the better part of 10 years trying to make up the shortfall by getting as much publicity out there as possible in the hope that someone will come forward,' Valerie Nettles says. 'I think Hampshire constabulary would agree with this, although in other areas they feel they have done everything they can.'

Robert Bryan is keen to stress that the police have vastly improved their response and strategy when a child is abducted. For instance, a senior police officer can now issue a Child Rescue Alert, which allows television and radio broadcasts to be interrupted, resulting in maximum publicity. Unfortunately, the official search for missing children cannot go on for ever if there are no leads to pursue. 'In any investigation, there may come a point where the case is no longer moving forward,' Bryan says, 'and yet the family still need support. That is where the voluntary sector comes in. That's where they have great strength.'

Bryan says that when he took over responsibility for missing persons, it was seen as 'police business'. He now wants to move towards a national missing persons agency, involving the voluntary sector as much as possible. 'I would be happy for police officers to work at Missing People and other voluntary agencies. The initial response will always be to the police, but if things get more long-term and complex, it makes sense to have a national agency. I don't think it matters how you label it, but this is the way we have to go.'

With the publicity generated by the McCann case, the issue of missing children has never been so much in the public eye. It might well be that one of the most important lessons to be learnt from Madeleine's disappearance is that providing practical support for the family of a missing child, especially as time goes on, is paramount, even if there can never be what therapists would call 'closure'.

At what point, one is left wondering, does the parent of a missing child attempt to get on with their life, even if that life can never be the same again? Some, like Lee Boxell's father, Peter, prefer to stay out of the spotlight and wish for some semblance of normality. ('He feels we have done enough,' Chris Boxell says.) For many others, the best - the only - way to cope is to keep the flame alive, to never stop looking or asking questions.

Today, despite all the setbacks and disappointments, Natasha Lee is more active than ever before, campaigning to draw attention to her sister's disappearance and offering support and solidarity to other families in a similar position. Every year she celebrates Katrice's birthday by releasing a balloon from a beach near Gosport, where she now lives. 'I write on it, "To Katrice, Happy Birthday wherever you are, from your big sis, Tash". I add the date and place she disappeared. I asked Mum and Dad if they'd mind if I was more involved and they agreed for me to do as much as I can. That's what keeps me going.'

For more information, contact Missing People (0500-700700; missingpeople.org.uk)





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