Just wanted to get this off my chest and see if anyone has an advice.

One of my brother's fellow classmate, co-worker, fellow basketball player and friend is having some difficult times with his father. This child's father is also a teacher in his high school and in fact is his study hall teacher. This man is being verbally abusive and physically abusive towards his son at home and in the classroom.

The boy has informed my brother and a few of his friends that when his father asks him to stay after class he smacks/hits him. The boy is afriad to tell his mother of the happenings as his father will find out and be more abusive towards him. The same would apply if he told the school.

I'm going to talk with my brother and tell him that him and his friends can do something to help their friend. Since it's also happening in the school the boys can stand outside the classroom door next time the boy is asked to stay after class. If they see the teacher hit his son/student then they can go down to the office and mention something to the principal. The child wouldn't be turning in his father but his friends would be turning him in.

This behavior is TOTALLY unacceptable and leaves everyone with knowledge of the situation stuck between a rock and a hard spot.

That's aweful.

After watching Lifetime all the time. It's best to report it right away. Social Services will come in take him away to a foster home probably. and Investagate it. It's a kind of thing where i wouldn't wait to say anything. My mom was abused when she was living with her parnets. her dad an alcholic, and her mom was teh abusive one. she couldn't turn to her dad because he was tryign to get sober.

So i'd inform the police, or the princable at the school adn they can go over it.

Goodluck

That's definitely a touchy situation.

Do you have a good relationship with the principal or a counselor at the school? Could you go in and tell them on a confidential level what you are hearing and your concerns?

The issue is that none of the students have actually seen it! So really there's no 'case' until a fellow student or another teacher sees it themselves.

Since I've graudated and left the school the end of my sophmore year there's been many changes within the school. I don't know the principal as it's his first year. The guidence counsler used to be my middle school principal but I don't have a relationship with him that I can go discuss such an issue.

Like I said.. this is a REALLY touchy issue. The boy knows if he turns in his dad through the school that his dad will loose his job. If he tells his mom he'll be in more trouble with his father.

This man was my english and driver's ed teacher along with seeing him all the time with sports his son and my brother are involved in.

Just not sure what to really do as me myself turning him isn't an option and the child is deathly afraid of turning in his father. The 'child' is 16 right now. My brother doesn't know that I know as he told my mother what happened. He knows if he told me that I'd tell if to surely take action and be ticked about the situation. Not saying that my mother isn't... but I've got negative zero tolerance for that kind of actions especially in a school! I don't care if it's son or not... you DON'T smack or hit any of your students. From 7:30 am to 2:30 pm Monday through Friday his son is his student not his son.

I think I would still inform a person you trust there. Then, they could at least keep an eye on things.

I think you should speak too the school counselour.even if you have no proof maybe they can help.unfotunately unless someone else sees whats going on its tough for the school to do anything.bluebird

Well, just a little update on this situation.

The child finally did something himself. He had told one of his teachers that I didn't like his dad and called him a name. Well, his dad found out and had him stay after class again.

Last night the child 'left for the night' and hid around town. He had been at his friends house and walked about 5 miles into town. Instead of going home he slept behind the town bowling alley. Of course his parents were out searching for him. The father went ahead to work and the child went right to school. Because he did this, his father forced him to quit the basketball team. He's also taking his license from him and is forcing him to quit his job.

I give the child credit for standing up for himself as he didn't want to go home to get abused. However, in the long run he ended up suffering more so because of all the important things in his life being taken away. I just wish the child would of walked to the police station to help solve the issue. So the child is threatening to take his father to court.

:( :(