Really, I do....I know people always say you will love your siblings no matter what because they're your siblings but in my case it's not true. I seriously hate him.

Ok...so he's been engaged for a month max and he just went with his fiancee to get his marriage liscence yesterday. Now let me tell you...he is in no way on this earth ready to be married. I'm only 16 (he's almost 22) and my mom, dad, and sister all say I am more prepared for marriage than he is! He owes a lot of debt (even though he's trying to get credit with his fiance for a new car) and has no money (works at Hollywood Video rental and has been in this debt for a long time). He left an apartment last year without emptying it completely and so the landlord had to. He said he would help my dad move the furniture but he decided not to so my dad got one of his brother's (my uncle) to help. He's been a total jerk (a very nice word for what he is) to my whole family for years.

Just last summer when my mom, sister and I were going to move back to my old town (if any of you remember that drama) and he was going to live with us there, he was crazy as usual. He got SO close to getting in a physical fight with my (our) sister who is 17, he was seriously going to beat her up until my mom and I intervened. I can't stand him at all. I hate him. He's crazy...he has twisted my arm so it hurt really badly a couple times before (I think I wrote about that once here) when he's gotten mad at me and I can't count the # of times he's said "f--- you" to me.

Then, a week or two ago he got mad at my mom (which he does everytime he is in our house) and said "f--- you" to her multiple times and as he walked to his car and over our driveway he punched my sister's car's window so the glass shattered and my dad had to miss work to bring it in to the repair place.

Then, a few days ago, he goes to Colorado (even though he has no money and his life is a mess) with his fiancee because her family lives there and comes back, and now that they have their marriage liscence wants to move in with us (both of them). Yeah right! Anyway so he comes over and sits down to talk with dad about moving in (no one wants him to, I haven't told a fourth of the stuff he's done to us in the past) and my dad says :
"I just don't think you're ready for marriage...." convo goes back and forth. "I really don't want you living here with the way you've been treating everyone." So my brother, crazy as usual, proceeds to tell my dad he has no right to say that 10x, and then says "f--- you" 10 more times and calls him names so vile I would cry before I could call my dad that...let's just say they rhyme with tickhead, sometimes without the head. yeah. that's right.

so my family is just through with him. I think he seriously has a mental problem, some sort of personality disorder. if he comes to the door I'll no longer let him in.

Also did I mention we've taken 2 of his dogs in the past year (one we still have now) because he couldn't care for them? I didn't want to tell you guys this before in fear that you would get upset with me but when he brought Joey here in September I could easily count every rib on her body and her bones were protruding so badly because he didn't feed her obviously (money stuff). But as soon as she came here she was fed 2x a day of puppy food and we have a fenced in backyard and she can play it in now, and she and our dog Cadie chase each other...anyway she's been all healthy and full every since we started taking care of her, just so you know she's all better! :)

I'm SOOOOOOOOO sorry this is so long, but I really needed to vent in case you can't tell. Thanks everyone.
Love you all!! :hug:

:hug: I'm sorry. It does sound like your brother may have some issues..mental maybe or maybe just a lack of anger control. In either case...if Tyler, or the girls for that matter, ever talked to me that way...I'm sure theyd need dentures. :innocent: But that's just the way it is in the south. Sounds like he has a total lack of respect for you, your sister, and your parents. I hope he grows up soon or life wont be very kind to him.

That's so sad about the dog, but I dont think anyone here would ever blame you for someone else's neglect...even if it was your brother. I'm so glad you have Joey now...I bet Joey is too.

omg you brother seriously sounds like he has a bunch of problems.
he needs to sort out him self and have more respect for you, your sis and you parents. i hope it wasnt him i ran into a few days ago. were in colorado was he.

Aww I'm sorry about all this you're going through. Brother's can be a right pain in the backside at times. Mine went through a rebellious stage, smoked dope, was kicked out by my dad, etc. but has now grown up, moved back with Dad and has been for the last 3 years. He was 17 when he did all these things... he's now 21 and works as a technician on an oil rigg... so he's got himself back on his feet. He's still in debt though. :(
I couldn't imagine calling my dad anything like that... Like Lanna said, I'd end up with dentures! LOL We weren't even allowed to say 'shut up' to him when we were younger! I'm still frightened to swear in front of him. :lol:
Your brother sounds very immature and he doesn't seem to want to take responsibility for the things he does, i.e. getting Joey and then not feeding her.
I think your dad did the right thing, if your brother will ever grow up, he needs to do it on his own and without having your family as a punch bag. :hug: There's not much you can do if they want to get married and it's hard to take a backseat when you see someone making what you think is a mistake. I can't really give you much advice to be honest, but I hope things get better. How does your sister get on with him? Does he have anyone he'd listen to who could talk to him for you?

Thats horrible!! Everyone tells me I am supposed to Love my sister no matter what but I absolutely HATE her!! She is so annoying and raises an argument that usually I get blamed for. Then she says it was all my fault for starting it!! I absolutely hate her. Then I think my mom likes her better than me.!! It is sad because I went to my moms office and there are 3 pictures of Christina and NONE of me at all!! Then when we have chores to do, I am usually the one that has to do them all!! Plus it doesnt help that she gets straight As and I only get A-B grades. My mom claims I am not trying hard enough!! Can you believe her!! ITS HIGHSCHOOL, THERES A DIFFERENCE!!

Well, I am very sorry about your brother as he seems worse than my sister. I am glad that you took ove r the care of his dog so she didn't die of irresponsibility!!Your brother sounds like a real jacka--... Its sad you have to put up with it.

Jeez your brother sounds like a real _______ (rhymes with tickhead LOLOL!) Sorry, but I couldn't resist! :lol:

I would stay as farrrrrr away from him as possible....and he's old enough that your parents should stop bailing him out of trouble. Hope they make him pay for the car window he broke.

WOW!! I can't even imagine treating any of my family members that way. :thud: It sounds like he may be out of your way for awhile since your Dad put him in his place. I worry about his fiancee. Who knows how he is treating her. Sorry if I offend you but some people are such a wast of skin. ((my husbands cousin included)) <_<

I'm sorry he's so negative and self destructive. It sounds like he has some real issues he needs to find help for.

Sometimes we have to be tough and say NO to those we love - I know your family loves him - he's their son - but you don't have to live with them or even like them for those things they do.

I hope he finds his way in life and stops abusing those around him.