Honestly I feel like this is all I ever rant about, but it is really starting to get to me now. My aunt and uncle and I are just not getting along anymore. AT ALL. All we do is fight. We can't even carry on a conversation anymore. And the worst part is- they are twisting their side into something it isn't, and now my mom is on my case as well. I got yelled at for "being a bad kid and not living up to expectations" when I was up there.

What the heck? I am not a bad kid. At all. I don't' do drugs, go out and get drunk, skip school.. all that junk that parents freak out about. It just isn't me, and I don't do it. So why is everyone up my butt about it? It doesn't make any sense to me.

The thing that is driving me most insane is that fact that I can never make my aunt and uncle happy. I have a job, and they complain about me working too much. I don't have a job, they complain about me not working at all. I don't have a boyfriend or hang out with my friends and they say that I am wasting my life, blah blah blah. But when I do, they either will not allow me to go, or they think I am doing things behind their backs. There just isn't any happy medium with these people! It's a constant battle over everything.

Most recently, tonight in fact.. the one thing I have been looking forward to months is the rabbit show this weekend. As you know, I have been having a hard time with everything recently, and I was REALLY looking forward to going. They told me tonight that I cannot go now. And because of my surgery next month, I will not be able to attend a single show until June. That's bull. If I can't even show my rabbits, why have them? Which that brings up another issue.. at least once a week my uncle freaks out on me about the rabbits. He hates them, and doesn't want them at the new house. He wants me to go and spend $800 on new cages to "make it look nicer", or to get rid of them all together.

I don't know what to do anymore. I wish I could leave, but I only have 3 months of school left. It would be stupid to drop out now and get a GED.. why would I come this far just to do that? But on the other hand, I can't live here anymore. I have to go SOMEWHERE. Because everyday things just get worse and worse, and I am starting to feel just like I did when I lived with my mom. Like life isn't worth living. I just can't go back to that life and feeling depressed 24/7.. but I am already on my way there. But every option I can come up with means losing my rabbits, which I don't want to do. I have been trying to plan college and everything around having them, that is how much they mean to me. But the thing that really scares me is coming home one day and my uncle has gotten rid of them. I wouldn't put it past him. I honestly think he would do it.

So what do I do? It's probably not my place to ask for help here.. but I can't think of anything else. This whole thing is just draining the life out of me, and I don't know how much more I can honestly take. :(

aww i'm so sorry Nichole!

how far away does your boyfriend live? you think he will let you live there?
as far as your Uncle getting rid of your Rabbits while you are gone.. i would hit him where it hurts themost on him. and demand him give me the number and the money to get the rabbits back.

sorry i dont have much input on this.. but if i were in your spot, i'd pack up and move to Fort hood texas, where my boyfriend is at, drop outof school get my GED. Elop with my boyfriend. and thats that...

of course thats not what you should do, sinc eyou have your life planned out on going to College. and getting a real job.

i hope you can find a way real soon.. maybe talk to them how you are feeling?? :hug:

Good grief!

Your aunt and uncle really make me mad! :angry: They haven't a clue how lucky they are to have you. Everything you are doing is good. You are on the right track, just hang in there for a few more months until you finish school. You are such a smart, mature young lady they should be proud of everything you do. Just keep believing in yourself Nichole.

I'm sorry they don't give you the emotional support you deserve. They seem to continually play mind games with you...."we're buying a farm and you can have lots of animals"....to "we bought a farm and you can't have any animals, including your bunnies." There are many types of abuse, not just physical. I've dealt with people like this before. It's hard for me to offer any advice in dealing with them, because truthfully, you can't. They will never change, and I think you are smart enough to know that already.

Hang in there with them as long as you can. You should probably look into other options for your bunnies (just in case it comes down to it, you'll be prepared). But I'd seriously think of other living arrangements for yourself once you are done with school. Other than providing you with food and shelter, your aunt and uncle aren't doing you any favors because of they way they continually beat you down emotionally. :hug:

Oh Nichole, I don't know what to say. It's hard for us to be helpful when we only hear the one side, but it sounds like your aunt, uncle and mom are being unfair.

Let me ask you these things tho (could be issues you don't see?)

1. Do you help around the house?
2. Do you clean up after yourself?
3. Do you pay for your own stuff?
4. Do you pay for your own rabbit stuff?
5. Do you keep promises you've made to them?
6. Are you responsible in hours you keep?
7. Are your grades good?

why aren't they letting you go to the rabbit show? It doesn't make sense.

Have you talked to your dad about this stuff?

1. Do you help around the house?: Yes, I have my chores plus whatever else they ask me to do.
2. Do you clean up after yourself?: Yeah.
3. Do you pay for your own stuff?: Everything but car insurence and my phone bill which my mom pays.
4. Do you pay for your own rabbit stuff?: I have paid for EVERYTHING concerning my rabbits.
5. Do you keep promises you've made to them?: Always, though I don't make them often.
6. Are you responsible in hours you keep?: Yes.
7. Are your grades good?: Not as good as they should be, but that is because I have missed so much school and am still making work up. It's only two classes that I am not caught up in, the others are great.

I talked to them about the show.. or pleaded rather.. they said I can go however they are taking my phone and computer away for 3-4 weeks instead. So after Sat. you won't be seeing me around for a long while. :(

And I have talked to my dad about it.. he wants me to move in with him. But that isn't going to happen, I'm not switching schools now, and I don't want to leave everything else I have here (aside from living arangements).

Well, they have to be 'reprimanding' you for something.

Maybe you should plan to move to your dad's after you graduate..... go to school up here or something?

I'm sorry you're getting treated like this Nichole. I kind of understand where you're coming from... For some strange reason, my dad was very over protective of me when I was growing up (I'm the first born, only daughter and mother upped and ran off so that's probably why :dunno:)... Up until I was about 14 I had to be in for 9pm... whilst all my friends were out later. I didn't smoke, drink, do drugs, go out with boys or anything, but for some reason I was always the one who took the brunt of everything.
If you're worrying about the bunnies, is there anywhere else you could maybe keep them? A friend's garage or barn? You're pretty self-sufficient from what I know, so I don't see how the rabbits being on the property are a problem. Do your aunt and uncle ever have to take care of them? It may be a bone of contention if they do. :dunno:
I also don't see how taking away your phone and pc helps their situation either. :???: It sounds like a way to hurt you more than for any good reason.
I agree, you can't leave school at such an important time, and this must be making studying even more difficult. :( :hug: Your dad sounds like he might be the best option once you've finished school though. Do you get on okay with him and his family? :)

Well, I guess I am not going this weekend. They gave me a choice between the two things I care about most, something I cannot honestly make a choice between. But I have after many hours of thought decided that I am going to cut down on my rabbits. Not competley.. but I am not going to have as many as I do now, just keep the best of the best, and do that occasional breeding. Not only will it get my uncle off my back, but I also do plan on moving out and going to college, and I just can't find a way to keep everyone and do that. I hate it, but I think it's something that must be done. With fewer rabbits I have more options about where I can go and where I cannot, and at this point in time, the current living situations are not going to cut it.

That's probably very responisble Nichole. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your aunt and uncle. ((HUGS)) I hope things look much better soon.

I'm sorry, but I think your aunt and uncle are psychotic. :wacko: They continually find new reasons to psychologically and emotionally torture you. Attending a weekend bunny show vs. 3-4 weeks of NO computer or phone use??? And what is THAT suppose to teach you??? The 'punishment' doesn't fit whatever 'crime' they think you've committed.

You will be SO much better off once you can get away from them.

I think they just don't know anything about raising kids and they're making it up as they go -- badly. I can tell just from your interests and your posts you're a great kid. I can compare you to my own nieces, nephews and neighbours, and you're in the top 10%.

Shoot me their phone number and I'll tell them that.


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I am so sorry! I wish I could offer you help. Do you have a friend that maybe you could stay at for a while? And maybe there is a place you could keep your rabbits (the FFA barn at our school has all sorts of animals because some people just dont have the room or land for them!) (or the parents). Praying for you!!

My prayers are with you.
You had said your Dad want's you to come live with him. Will he let you bring your rabbits? I was just thinking that if you are affraid your Uncle will get rid of them while you are away at school. do you think your Dad will help you with them instead? Maybe find 4-H kids to take care of them for you as a project or another breeder to take them in while you are at school?
I hope you can hang in there for just a few more month, :hug: